Pearls of My Wisdom

Pearls of Wisdom 

Success is more than making money
1. money isn't bad
2. money isn't all there is being successful

Successful people accept life as it is with all difficulties and challanges, they maintain positive attitude
success is in the doing and not in getting

Life is hard..and not always fair
reality is a great teacher
Life is hard, once we accept it, we begin to grow
complaining doesn't make problems go away

Pain is inevitable, but misery is optional
those things that hurt, instruct
we're not alone, courage to change the things

Life is also fun...and incredibly funny
Humans need to have fun
Looking back, it all seems pretty funny
man needs a little madness
only way to survive hardship is to get plenty of laughs along the way
mind is overly stressed when it's subject to seriousness for
cheerful heart is good medicine, but crushed spirit dries up the bones

We live by choice, not by chance
its our ability to choose
freedom to decide and power to choose
we don't 'have to', we choose to

Attitude is a choice, the most imp. 1 you'll ever make
a good attitude gets good result, and vice versa
think with an open mind
think for yourself
think constructively

Habit are the key to all success
the power of habit
habits are key to all success
sow an act..reap a habit; sow a habit..reap a character; sow a character..reap a destiny

Good people build their lives on a foundation of respect
respect for life
respect is as old as life itself
without good manners human society becomes intolerable and impossible
what's comes out of our mouths does indeed reveals what's stored in our hearts
Honour the rules
Appreciating differences

Honesty is still the best policy
integrity= complete
honesty is a struggle, it's hard work
dishonesty ruins rlatns, can't be hidden, prevents us from fulfillment
being honest: peace of mind, character, rlatnshp, wholeness, mental and phy. health, being authentic

Kind words costs little but accomplish much
ability to affirm others
we increase whatever we praise

Real motivation comes from within
Desire, belief, mental picture (clear vision)
motivation is an inner drive

Goals are dreams with deadlines
success is progressive accomplishment of worthy goals
understand the differece between a goal and a wish
write down ur goals and make them special
categorize and balance your goals
review and revise your goals regularly

there's no substitute for hard work
hard work- realise potential, feels good, builds character, earns respect, best result, habit, healthy
work and fun aren't opposite (take breaks from work)

You have to give up something to get something
self-discipline = being in charge of urslf
discipline means choices (u say yes to a goal, u say no to many more)
success = sum of small efforts
right choice- good habits- accomplishment- fulfillment

Successful ppl don't find time- they make time
time = life. irreversible and irreplaceable
waste time = waste life
we have all the time we need
the key = balance
plan ur day, make appointmnts, do little-bit-at-a-time, know ur most productive time

No one else can raise ur self-esteem
self-esteem is that deep-down inside the skin feeling u have of ur own self-worth
we can only feel good about ourselves is direct result of what we do ot think
be kind, honorable, productive, positive

the body needs nutrition- so do the mind and spirit
life is a balancing act
care for the body
caring for the mind, mental diet and exercise
caring for the spirit
God who was powerful enough to create the universe, yet is personal enough to want an intimate rlatn vd us
become complete (and integrated)
rlatn with God was necessary for overcoming marrow self interest and become complete human beings

it's ok to fail- every1 else has
failing is a fact of life and is a natural outcome of trying
failure teaches: humility, correct course of action, we can't always have wat we want, strength of our character, perseverance, we can survive defeat

Life is simpler when we know what's essential
be a spirit lifter
choose good attitude, respect, be honest and fair, learn lifelong, laugh

Be a good person
do all the good u can, by all the means u can
being gud is the most essential ingredient of emotional and spiritual health

LI_E: One alphabet, many meanings

We See What we Want to See!!

Because all perceptions are our choice.. we make one ourselves. It's a simple funda which has a deep meaning.

For example, just look at the half written heading.. I mean just a small word where one simple alphabet is missing. What's the beauty in this is that if we add the letter, the meaning completely changes.

Try this as an exercise.

Complete the word and find out how many meaningful words can you make out of it!

Don't worry, no one will judge you in doing this. But surely once you end up thinking and start googling... you'll be astonished to find many others too. How come I missed that? Of course you are intelligent and smart. But you still missed that one.. isn't it?

I only want to make a psychological sense into this little trivia. What my point is that we tend to pick certain instances and see what we want to see. We tend to lock our mind in one dimension... of course unknowingly. We find words like Life, Like, Line and Live. But many of us will forget some other meaningful words like Lime, Lite, Lice, Lire.

Almost 95% will try to fill words.. and won't even read my question properly. They can also make a meaningful word... Lie! Because I never mentioned how many letter words it should be.

Putting all of this into an observation, we can easily say that we only see what we want to. Reading between the lines or seeing out of the box is not so common in us humans.

It is only when we cease to lock our mind from our caves and start opening up to see beyond the chains can we actually become wise and shine under inner peace. Stop imposing restrictions and traditional ways because life is all about growing up not old.

My Mother-in-law....

Ever since I have set foot into this world, I have grown up holding my mother’s hand and she is the one who showed me the world through her eyes. Later, she encouraged me to go on my own and define world through my own experiences.
Inspite of my “terrible teens”, one thing was absolutely clear, no one can ever take the place of my mother and that is why she is MOM!  It will be impossible for me to call any other person as my mother (I mean, that’s huge... right?)
I was wrong
When I turned 27 last year, a new life was waiting for me with all arms open: I was about to get married!
I was excited and happy because the man I was to marry is a gem of a person.., but I was anxious and nervous because of the fear of unknown.. my mother and father-in-law. I used to think what’ll I call them... aunty-uncle, mummyji-papaji or simply just come up with something like.. haanji, ji, namaste, ummm, etc.
I won’t lie, it was cluttered in my head.
Then I decided to just forget everything and go with the flow; let things come to me all by itself. The moment I stepped inside Mumbai (my in law’s place), I felt a different kind of vibe. A vibe which was so new and so fresh. All smiling faces in front of me.. ready to make me feel at home, like I was already the member of this new family. My husband had to leave to USA leaving me alone with my new “parents”.
I was scared; I only knew him.. not his family..!
I decided I will show them my true self and not to be impersonate.
But I hesitated to call them mom and dad.
We in general have a tendency to rely on the first impression for other people and environment which is not the right way. You’ve got to be a little mature than that.
In India, it is the daughter-in-law who has to adjust to the new place and learn the lifestyle of the new family. For me, I gradually discovered, I didn’t have to do anything to adjust, they adjusted for me! It was a surprise because I have always seen my mother struggling so much to find her rightful place in my father’s family. I have seen my mother being constantly questioned by my grandma on random irrelevant things.
My mother-in-law is so open and so welcoming that I didn’t feel alienated. We talk about almost every topic. She is so lively and cheerful; she didn’t even make me understand their cooking methods and lifestyle. Like a water color, I merged into their ways easily.
She gave me time to sink in (which isn’t a common thing at all).
And before I could realise, one day I said .... Maa..! Oh My God.. I gave her the highest honor! She isn’t just my husband’s mother anymore.. she is my mother as well! I am sure she also must have took time to understand me. The best thing was, we both never forced ourselves onto each other.
Now, I can not fathom myself not talking to her on a daily basis. Many a times, I follow my mother-in-law’s advices more than my own mom (my mother-in-law is more open minded and not restricted by traditions). I think of her and my father-in-law every day; and they have all their love to shower upon me!
Yes, I am her daughter.. and not just daughter-in-law!
Some women have dreadful experiences with their in laws, I have seen them too. I think God is kind to me to give me two moms who equally love me and pray for my well-being.
On your 55th birthday, I wish you all the good luck and all the happiness. You means the world to me!
See you soon maa...

An Old Me but A New Me

It is too much to embrace life when you get high of it. All of a sudden when you were just living in your worst days, someone just makes you so alive and showers so much happiness that it becomes unbearable. Feels like you are living in a juxtaposing fantasy world which is beyond your imagination. I too fell under such a place. Marriage and coming to USA with my one and only was itself too much to take that I dont want to come out of it at all.
And guess what..., I am not doing anything wrong; I deserve it.
Honestly, if you want something, all you need is to have trust and patience. People will come along in your life showing an alternate route which might look easier. All my life I have ever wanted was the ultimate love of my life and men did knock on my heart; but none could touch my heart (or maybe I was too naive to ignore it.. who knows..). Born in a middle class family, I have always seen my parents protecting each other and loving each other without even saying those three magical words. And now here I am... miles away from home.. with my partner in a completely new avatar (a wife!!! I still get chills while thinking about that transformation.. but there it is..)
I am living the American life and learning the American ways. Also, my Social Media feeds are getting so interesting with the picturesque locations (can’t avoid mentioning that!!). Yet, I am a Desi at heart, making Chapatis, Daal and Sabzi for my Hubba-Hubba!! I still try to be myself by talking to my folks back in India and reminding me of my roots. Trying to find myself in this first world country, I have come a long way. My whole life and routine has taken a 180 degree turn. Of course, the New Me has spoilt the Old Me; but I am happy to take it in full form. Now I realize that change is a part of life which is unavoidable.
Life is short, so you never know what’s next. Until then just stay happy and make your own path. Things will fall in place when it has to be. 

I'm Getting Married!

Oh My Gosh.. it's truely happening!!
The dream I've been carrying in my mind and heart since so long is finally taking shape. Yes, it feels like a fairy tale but truth being told... I'm filled with anxiety and nervousness from top to bottom. Surely that has to occur.. in a few days I'll be no more the same.. I'll be staying in an entirely new place with new people and new environment. It's not that easy.. But it's the one thing I've chosen for myself at last.
I've always loved to attend weddings as it is the purest form of showing love and truest form of belief of togetherness.... for good and for worse. I've been bridesmaid to many friends and like. But this is the time I get to be on the other side.. I'll be the lovely BRIDE!
Since my childhood, I've been taught that marriage brings many responsibilities on a girl's shoulders especially after the moment her man of love puts the holy "sindoor" and "mangalsutra" on his lady love's grace, she instantly becomes a lady and is no longer that carefree girl who could roam around in the house in her mere pajamas, party with friends and watch Netflix all day! But, I believe that marriage is an institution where you find a companion and spend your life together as a whole to achieve a higher objective.
I'm certain that, this won't be a bed of roses as it's not easy to lead a life with an unknown person whom you just met for a day or two..., but yes, Sahil loves me and I love him too. And love is one strong bond which transcends all boundaries... all the difficulties.. and all the possible dangers. It'll be my strength for sure and I'm ready to take it now... it's time that I should shed my much-loved-bachelorhood, I guess. Everything closely linked with Sahil is now linked with me too and this is a special feeling.
Of course, I am afraid of the unknown... I am afraid that I should never let my family down... and I must always see the good side of the coin because there'll be nothing but gloom, sadness and anger if I'm negative. I have a strong belief in the almighty power and won't stop thanking God for the wonderful life he has showered to me.
My marriage is on 2nd of July, 2017 and is one of the 1st steps towards starting my own family which I've always been longing for. I'm sure I'll be welcomed into the new world in a much better way than I can ever imagined... Let there be light!

Now I Know How It Feels To Be In LOVE!

Since my childhood, I believed in one thing which is above all... LOVE! Whether it's a love for family, friends, mentors, professors, work colleagues... or the partner. Frankly, I call myself a rich girl, because I have experienced it all... but still was short of love of a man. But, now I can proudly say that, I have found my life partner whom I really love and care..., and am ready to spend the rest of my life with him. The Gods have showered their utmost fantastic blessings on me and him, and we're kinda perfect for each other.

He found me during my worst self.. marred by the fake love and unworthy friends. I went into a cave of self doubt. He made me realize that love does exist if I would open-up once again. From the very first interaction..., he believed in me when I didn't believe in myself. But, his goodness made me fall for him and I love him for eternity. Yes, he is not perfect and of course, neither am I; but this is how two imperfects become perfect with each other, right?

When we say that marriages are made in heaven..., like kind of destined, well, I agree it totally. Arranged by parents and sealed by both of us.., it's a perfect form of a relationship I always dreamt about (maybe because that's how I've seen my parents grow with each other)! I admit, at first I didn't want to understand him because I was so tired of this thing called as show-off love.. something which you can say in lehman terms as "No Strings Attached", because it's not my scene all-together. I mean, darn the world.. but I can't just loose myself for a man whom I don't even love. He loved me and he didn't force myself onto me. He kept his patience because his feelings were true. My feelings for him started growing more and more with time..., and here I am.. totally and insanely IN LOVE!

Now that things are getting in shape, he is the ultimate rockstar guy of my life. I can't think of starting the second innings of life with him. He has got everything which I need. We're getting married pretty soon (touchwood), but we've already vowed to stay with each other in good or bad days. 

I think, I can give myself to him..., make my dream come true.. To have my own family! :)

Oh! Is That You? Sorry, I've Already Got Over You

I put my quality time aside just to spend it with you.
I absolved you all the time because you deserved a second chance.
Even in my lowest self, I always smiled for you
All of this, you don't own, but I still gave you.
I guess I was wrong.
Oh! Is That You? Sorry, I've Already Got Over You

When you left without telling me why,
I was all alone,
thinking about my mistakes (if any),
thinking about why you left,
I cried for many days (3 days) for you.
I guess I was wrong
Oh! Is That You? Sorry, I've Already Got Over You

All of those 'cry days' were bitter and vulnerable.
My mind was running so fast to think about ways
and maybe I'd sing a beautiful song
to persuade you.
I guess I was wrong
Oh! Is That You? Sorry, I've Already Got Over You

I was in pain which I didn't actually deserve,
and you just left without saying a word.
You made me hate myself
I felt like I've been toyed and just left for heaven's sake
and this.. well, I can't take from you
I guess I was wrong
Oh! Is That You? Sorry, I've Already Got Over You

Yeah, I'll let you say to the people
that "a crazy girl loved me"
but just so you know,
I've erased your memory; 
you're a long gone history,
and now you don't have a space in my life anymore.
Ha! Now I can hardly remember you.
Oh! Is That You? Sorry, I've Already Got Over You