Memories are worth cherishing.... Happy Rakhshabandhan!

I remember in January when I was nearly 3 years old
A healthy baby boy was delivered by my mother
about whom I was being told since months
that soon enough I will have my angel brother

My grand-ma dressed me up in pink flair
Made 2 small coconut-tree types pony-tails of my hair
on the way to hospital she told me about the new baby-boy
with whom I could share all of my toy

But, see how stupid I was, that when I saw him with mommy
inspite of being happy about this sweet innocent baby
I cried after seeing mummy with a new child and shredded tears like an open tap
"Who is he and What is he doing on MY mumma's lap"..?

Very softly mumma took me and made me sit near him
and reminded me how anxious I was to see him,
I closely felt his heart looked at him
O yes..yes... That's my brother..that is HIM!

It was a proud moment for me being an elder sis
and a chance to pamper this cute teddy bear
I took an oath near the temple with a bliss
that I woun't let him shred a single drop of tear

As the days went by.. and years passed on
with one another we experienced days being both sweet and bitter
But, each day was a learning and moment to celebrate
the true relationship of a brother and a sister

This rakshabandhan, I promise once again
to be an ever loving and responsible elder sister
and YES...we will celebrate feeling of togetherness
for today, tomorrow and forever..!

Expectationssss...

The famous poet and short story writer, Sylvia Plath quoted once that, "If you expect nothing from anybody, you're never disappointed". Absolute truth!!! Almost all the problems, stress and eagerness in human nature comes from expectations. It is the only thing that tears apart many relationships and is the major reason for disturbance created in mindsets of people in general.
I don't say that expectations are bad, but as it is very well said, "Excess of everything is bad", exceeding expectations from others sows seeds of disappointments, leading to unhappy life. I've come across numerous cases wherein exceeding expectations have lead to unrest to mind-body-soul and believe me it is painful every moment. No peace of mind leads to sadness, imbalance in mind, increase in heart-beat rate, muscular problems and God knows what all....! You can never even think in your wildest imaginations that people loose their balance of mind just because of it. The more you expect, the more you are dependent on others and it becomes inevitable to even think of getting separated from them. And if it goes beyond limits, in psychological terms it is called as DPD or Dependent personality disorder. In DPD, people completely depend on others to meet their emotional and physical needs.
In our day-to-day lives we get to know various people through family, friends, school, work places, etc and we associate with those whose mindsets are kind of like ours. With change of time, place, scenario etc we move on and find new people with whom we continue our life and the line goes like that. So what do we see..? We see that people come, people goes..but what is constant is Me or Myself. I am the best person to see what is right or wrong for myself. But in this context we must never forget people who have made us what we are.. Our Parents, to some extent other family members and close friends. Many minds have come together in the process of making one single mind.. Myself. We all must have experienced this many times that whenever we desperately need someone, people donot turn up, it is you who have to help yourself. Here comes expectations and longingness of someone, and if they do not come to you, you feel like why the hell have we considered him/her my well-wisher when they can not help us in our need. But instead of expecting from others if you do it on your own, things are much easier and comfortable.
It's not that we are doing a sin by not expecting, but it is a very big word to expect something from others in this era of egotism and un-adjustment amongst people. Someone near my place once said that "98% of people are very nice and helpful and we can trust and expect from them"...! Ha!! A person living in a dangerous place like NCR says that...it means either he/she does not go out of their room or else he is an extremely rich person who can shower money and get things done so easily.
Ultimately we and our family are the only ones with whom we can expect and never get depressed because family always stays together no matter what.

Magnificent Taj...through my eyes.... enhancing my photography skills