Why do I make a fool of myself??

Well, yes!
I make a fool of myself a lot of times. Sometimes it happens naturally, but sometimes I am just inquisitive enough to know the facts right from the scratch.
One fine day, not so fine actually, but there you go. One fine day, I was coming out of my office with a friend of mine and we were searching for an auto to go home. A person was standing in front of an auto just like he owned it completely. I thought he was the auto driver and went there ans asked, "Bhaiya, Ghaziabad chaloge?" And he looked at me with such an expression as if he will eventually kill me. Of course, he wasn't the driver, but it looked like he was. I made a fool of myself in front of at least 10 people including that friend of mine and she still teases me for that.
Not only this, my life has been full of such stupid and life changing experiences. And you know what, these become memories afterwards.
In fact, it's good to be stupid and make a fool of myself. I get to learn a lot because when your glass is already full, there's no place for more water. So, I keep my glass half filled always.
Sometimes, it's a deliberate attempt to be a fool. Why? Simply because you learn a lot by acting stupid. You will learn better if you make mistakes, because that's first hand learning. It's okay to sideline your pride for a while, you will actually grow in long run.

This is a proven fact for all aspects of life. As rightly said by Steve Jobs, "Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish", we must always push ourselves and never be satisfied with the current situation. Be ready to embrace anything new, maybe there's something even better stacked-up for you, who knows.The bottom line is, if you shy away, you will lose on a lot of things which you can't even imagine. It's also true that it might be worst decision, but then you see, it's just a possibility. Steve Jobs says that this mantra will keep you younger and happier at heart. You will always try to explore and be daring, and by the way, age is just a number guys. It's the heart and mind that gets old and aged if you stop learning.
So you need not do anything, just get out of your comfort zones and play like a child. Don't let yourself vanish because you are the best and most unique person in the world.

Clear Your Mind..

The mind is a box. Either you can clutter it with stress and worries, or you can make it a basket of memories and good thoughts. Unwanted thoughts do rollover our minds and that makes us think, maybe more than required. A human mind is never quiet, I'm not talking about the exceptions, people, but in general, everyone has something or the other cooking in their small sized mind all the time. How did he say that to me? When will my boss have the next meeting? Did I leave open the stove in the kitchen? Why am I single? Why did he/she leave me?... Oh My God.. The list goes awry.
What are we doing? In simple terms, we are stupidly gathering a band of thoughts which holds no importance in our lives, and we keep on giving them priority when, instead, we must be concentrating on something more valuable, isn't it!
What to do? Clear your mind. Making the mind turned off for a while solves so many mysteries automatically. Why to complicate when things can be sorted without arms and ammunition. To quiet the mind isn't that easy, okay. People can't achieve that stage just like that, it's a matter of time and patience.
But, we all can't become Sages, right. What max we can do is just follow some easy steps to distract or calm the mind to make better decisions and stay healthy.
I have followed, am still following simple practices to quiet my mind and with my experience, it's really working well for me. Try it yourself and honestly, it won't take much time to follow them, and of course, it's for your own good.
1. While you are at workplace or at home, if you feel cluttered, just break it off and go out in the open air and take long breaths for 4-5 times. While you breathe in-and-out, you will feel light and peaceful within few seconds. Go back, and make things happen in a sorted manner.
2. If that's also not working, try to take 5-7 minutes of walk. In fact better would be to wake up early in the morning and go for a good minimum of 20 minutes of brisk walk and also feel the pleasant air around you because morning bliss is in the clean and unpolluted air.
3. Talk to your friend... Oh yeah! I do that each moment I am stuck up.. Without wasting a second, I pick up my phone, take her number from my speed dial number 5, and say, "Preeti, I need a word." And she understands that something's not right. You kind of feel calm when you discuss something you can't share with anyone.
4. If you aren't expressive, well, don't bother, writing is equivalent to talking. Keep writing down your problems or some questions dancing in your mind. Diary can become your best friend.. why not. Put all your dreams, desires, stresses into a journal and see that it works wonders with peace of mind.
5. Pursue a hobby. Are you going on a loop of disappointments or are you working like a pressure cooker? Hello, workaholics, get a life! Take a few days off and do something you love. Whether it is swimming, writing poetry, photography, etc. It'll really rejuvenate your body, mind and soul and will definitely help you to focus.
So, follow your instinct and get rid of the tensions and cluttered mind.
Peaceful mind is the best mind.

Simple ideas, great rewards

Stressful situations are a part and parcel for working individuals. And there's no parameter to judge the level of stress within various organizations. We try to make our bosses happy by over-stressing ourselves, and as a result we get depressed. The target-based work, the last minute detail editing, the client-suited deals, and what not, are just eating our heads off each day. The whole 9-5 job is a waste if the result is not proper and satisfaction seems to be sleeping behind the sheets.
Why do we ponder on unnecessary things which holds no importance and are a major distraction at work? Sometimes, finding answers to such things are next to impossible because we are tangled in our thinking and don't find time to hit the right brick at the right time.
It's easy to find faults in the person or the whole system. What if we drop down our defenses and try to think in a simple fashion rather than making a question-marked face all the time. That way, the peers and co-workers are also stressed seeing your idiotic gesture and expressions, it annoys them too, and thus it pollutes the atmosphere around you. So, can you see, a vicious circle is formed around you which is only giving you negative energy. Negative energy tires us more, why is that? Well, ask yourselves and you'll find the answer. You will discover that the fault remains in you and others are going forward in their lives. No matter what, nobody will rest for you and wait till you come forward. At the end, it's you who is going into depression, and it's you who has to pull yourself out of distress.
Why not start a new practice of writing down your inhibitions and problems in a page, or even better, start maintaining a diary each day and be utmost truthful to yourself while writing as it'll be your personal entry and no one will ever notice about it. In fact, don't tell anyone that you are starting this thing. Do it to regularly, update yourself and see the previous posts to recollect the last mistakes you did, so that you don't repeat it again. This is how you can improve and build-up self-confidence.
It's not at all difficult, it's just like you are giving some precious time to re-create yourself and re-examine all the time, it's just a matter of 5-10mns. Can't you devote some special time to your own self? I think you can. Or even if you don't want to write, make an audio recording and say some few words about today's happenings and trust me, this is much entertaining than TV! Say few things which you liked, you didn't like, and you saw for the first time, and etc. Save those recordings regularly in a secret folder.
Simple things makes big changes, and change takes time, but it will show up, that's there! I will also pledge to write regularly atleast 5-10 lines daily, I don't write daily, but now I will try. Just try to do these things for about 15-20 days, and it'll become your habit, seriously.
You will remain happy forever and nothing can stop you from climbing big ladders and accomplishing what you aim for.

Idiot box or box of utilities...

Ummm.... Its amazing to see what TV has done to the Indians....esp. "Ladies"... What magic has it created in their minds that they can easily shift their household work timings and mould it according to timings of their favourite TV serials... And these serials are only fictions which the people do not want to realize and wait for tomorrow's episode to see what will happen next.... And the worst part....hmm...the vamp in those daily soaps...they have made such an impression on the Indian viewers that they have started doubting other people in the neighbouring too.... All the 'Saas-bahu' serials have occupied their minds like a virus which is spread so deep in the minds of Indian women that no medicine can help now. One of the major reason for family clashes is some where due to these daily soaps where on screen family members fight amongst each other for property or money or something like this.
Is there any reason of why does these soaps shows extra marital affairs, 3-4 weddings of same woman or actor, murders of their own family members, playing conspiracies against your loved ones, or the worst... making dead people alive from no-where...? I mean is this some kind of a joke that is being played since more than a decade. Yes, due to these things, TV is said to be an idiot box! I mean how can a person have multiple surgeries..how can they afford it... It's so unrealistic. Worst still, they complete their bloody 200...300...700..1000..etc episodes and celebrate it..  To keep their viewers even more involved, now TV shows have started hosting their annual celebration in picturesque destinations, I mean it's all about money. Why can't they spend that surplus amount to the 1 who actually needs money. But, I guess this is the need of the hour for some who's favourite past time revolves around singing endlessly about twists and tales of the sitcoms wherever they go and who ever it might be.
In contradiction to this, yes! there are some episodes dedicated to the vast history and beautiful culture of India, which gives a message to respect what is the power and uniqueness of India, lesser, but slowly, people will be moving towards them so as to be close to the reality and shutting doors to impossible fiction-filled idiot box.

National Pride.. Our guards

Festival of colours..

Women's Day~ article inspired from HT (8/3/15)

Dear 21st century people, for the sake of saying we have already demarcated women into 2 default sections, good woman and bad woman. A good woman is the one who does everything as said to be done and only speaks what is liked by the general audience whereas a bad woman is the one who feels free to use her right to freedom of speech and does only what she feels right and that might not be pleasant to the rest of the public. There are not one but n-number of different contextual facts wherein this clear distinguished category can be seen which is made by our so-called intellectual and free society. If a woman sneezes very loudly, we say how indecent is this; If a woman burps loudly, we say what an ill-natured lady; If she farts, then she's not even fit to socialize in the society. Just like a man has freedom to do anything on his will, why must women suffer. I'm not saying that girls must become rebels, but if they want to try something off-beat or even does some activity unknowingly, they are judged instantaneously by us.
On the auspicious day of Maha Shivratri, the women goes to them temple and worships Shiv Linga, but if she discusses sex openly she is said to be a bad girl, infact worst valued girl, why is this distinction made? She hesitates to speak out this word publicly 

A relation as pure as a pearl...brother-sister

Har lamha ek pal...aur har pal..zindagi